My most recent, heroic widow’s task completed, I move on to my next. The move was a large scale one. Our family home was purged, packed and prepared for sale during the first six months of this year. Hedges were trimmed, decks power washed, old appliances replaced. Staying in our lovely home, with all its memories was no longer an option; in September of 2022 my spirit clearly told me it was time to leave.

The process was painful…every item had powerful memories attached to it after our family lived 33 years in Gibsons on the West Coast of Canada and I spent 43 years with my dear soulmate Don, until his transition in August of 2020. Separating from the large, treed property was harder than moving out of the house. I am intimately connected with each plant in the yard; some flowers were there when we arrived and others I planted over the years.

The young couple who bought our place feel blessed; they are exactly the right people to live there I felt as I turned it over to them. Our home and property is in good hands.

The move smoothly completed and my new home arranged, I now rest before my next heroic task. Becoming (relatively) settled two months before the third anniversary of Don’s transition is a good and healthy thing. I feel it in my bones and gut.

It took me a while to feel into what my soul needs to do on August 7th, that very special day. We celebrated Don many times soon after he left us and gathered friends at our home for the first and second anniversaries, as suggested in Alan Wolfelt’s soulmate book. We will mark the day this time with a quiet prayer-meditation gathering of local DLSF folks in my living room.

We journey on together.

Love & Light

Ellen

Copyright 2023 Ellen Besso

Ellen Besso is a retired Life Coach, Counsellor & an energy worker. She is the author of An Indian Sojourn: One woman’s spiritual experience of travel & volunteering, and Surviving Eldercare: Where their needs end & yours begin, both available through Amazon. Ellen is currently working on a book about her partner’s illnesses, his transition & the myriad contact they have had since Don left this planet.