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I think you’ll enjoy this guest post by Dana Williams, a powerful healer who lives in our community:
THE UNIVERSE IS NEUTRAL
We are so plugged into the idea of ‘Right & Wrong’.
If we are happy, then we must be doing it right… Right?
If we are unhappy, we must be doing it wrong… Right?
Unhappiness leads us to work harder to fix it, so that everybody is happy, and, by the way, we tend to leave ourselves out of the equation.
We compare past moments of happiness, try to recreate them, but it all falls flat. So we work harder to get the happiness back. When it doesn’t happen, we blame and shame ourselves for not being good enough.
When we feel like we let “them” down and we go into judgement and wrong ourselves for not working hard enough to get their love and approval, this is the key to recovering our missing piece. In this moment of realization, we are actually doing something right !
Stay with me here …
The Universe will always match us where we are unclear, in particular with the gap in our boundaries. It will match the lowest vibration in the gap of “no” boundaries and send in the messengers to dance with that energetic match.
Years and years of matching and dancing with the old patterns put us in a trance of thinking that we are “wrong” or else we would be happy.
Often, the reason we are not happy is because we are doing it for someone else’s approval and this is wrong.
So we are actually right when we discover this.
Kinda upside down at first, but when we get it, it will automatically change our life.
“Happy” is a very subjective state. We often unconsciously give our power to close relationships to decide for us if we are allowed to be happy or not.
Let’s call back the responsibility for our own creations from the start. Hanging out in judgement, blame and victimhood is a choice.
We can be so habitually trained to be busy and working hard and not being in our truth and putting others first in order to avoid looking these frightened monkeys in the eye.
Why would we want to give all of our power over to these dancing, jacked-up, scared little tricksters? Often it is to keep us safe from our own brilliance, because this brilliance is foreign to us.
Let’s look these patterns in the eye and allow them to be released so that our clear boundaries can be the theme to send out to the Universe.
When the Universe picks up the energies of clarity and co-creation with higher vibrational personal endeavors, it will match these ~ always!
The Universe has no agenda, other than to follow our inner self talk and communication. So, living small and in fear becomes a choice when we know the truth of the above wisdom.
Make the choice to update these old habitual patterns and send out a new call through your energy so that you can witness new awareness.
Call to yourself what you want,
instead of what you don’t want.
End the “Story” !
Known as The Artist of Change, Dana Williams is trained in Energy Healing, Certified as a Transpersonal Clinical Hypnotherapist, NLP Practitioner and Advanced EFT Practitioner. Her practice is based in Roberts Creek, on the beautiful Sunshine Coast of BC. She incorporates EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques) with other healing modalities to help her clients shift and transform their lives and uses humour and intuition to move the sessions along easily and gently, to release old stuck patterns, programs and limitations.
Dana’s 2-day workshop, HEAL YOUR MONKEY MIND on April 28th & 29th will help you to look behind THE MONKEY BUSINESS and release your phobias, fears and anxieties.
I received this announcement from the Canada Tibet Committee & wanted to share it with you. Last fall, the Montreal rock band, Sunrise and Good People released their music video I won’t fall down – a homage to Tibet, along with the CTC . Now they are doing a Canada-wide tour to raise money to sponsor the Tibetans who will be permitted to enter Canada over the next 5 years.
Please read this & if you feel moved to help in some way, subscribe to the newsletter, go to a concert, or help locally.
Here on the Sunshine Coast of British Columbia, we are working hard to form 2 sponsorship groups to bring Tibetan refugees to our community. If you are local & would like to help, please contact me through my website.
Benefit concert for the Tibetan Resettlement Project (Project Tibet Society), starring Sunrise and Good People
Last fall, the Montreal rock band Sunrise and Good People released the music video “I won’t fall down” (an homage to Tibet) with the help of the Canada Tibet Committee. This was the start of a great collaboration between the two. They decided to launch a nationwide fundraising tour called Rock for Tibet!
Sunrise and Good People will start off their tour in Vancouver, British Columbia on March 28th at the Biltmore Cabaret . On March 31st they will perform in Victoria at Felicita’s campus pub.
Proceeds from the concert tour will be donated to the Tibetan Resettlement Project, an initiative to resettle to Canada up to 1000 displaced, stateless Tibetans who currently reside in Arunachal Pradesh, a remote state in the far North East corner of India.
Vancouver Concert information:
Date: Wednesday, March 28th
Time: Doors open at 8:00 PM
Location: Biltmore Cabaret, 2755 Prince Edward, Vancouver
Tickets: $10 at door; $25 advance tickets come with the CD “Rise Up”, by Sunrise and Good People
Event Website – Scroll down to March 28 and click on the ticketweb link to buy advance tickets on-line)
For more information, including concert details for Victoria and other cities across Canada.
Dermod Travis, Executive Director – CTC and Xavier Auclair, Lead singer – SGP, introduce the tour and the fundraising initiative in this Georgia Straight article by Matt Burrows
More information on Project Tibet Society and the Tibetan Resettlement Project:
Citizenship and Immigration Canada’s News release announcing acceptance of 1000 displaced Tibetans living in the Indian state of Arunachal Pradesh, and public policy concerning the settlement of these Tibetans:
CTC information relating to sponsorship and settlement of the displaced Tibetans http://www.tibet.ca/en/projecttibetsociety
To sign up for the Vancouver/Lower Mainland area’s Project Tibet Society/Resettlement Project e-mail list, please send your request to: firstname.lastname@example.org
Copyright 2008 Comité Canada Tibet Committee
Please forward to friends who you believe are supportive of the Tibetan cause and people.
Women’s rights have come a long way, and we’re now in the 3rd wave of feminism, after the first 2 waves failed to adequately address the real issues of women of colour, poor women and lesbian, bisexual and transgendered women.
While Western women have made many gains, the lot of women in developing countries has improved only in tiny increments. Afghanistan, Congo and Pakistan are the world’s most dangerous countries for women, due to threats ranging from violence and rape to dismal health care and honour killings, a Thomson Reuters Foundation poll showed last year.
Please check out this fascinating & uplifting post by 11 women around the world , posted by The Saudi Woman’s Website, a one-woman unique account of politics in Saudi as they pertain to women’s rights.
After you click the link below, Press on “Click here” and you will be transferred to a map showing the locations of the 11 women who have written about their country for International Women’s Day and their stories.
Here is a link to a poem honouring women’ strength, The Empowered Woman, by Sonny Carroll.
Ensuring Your Elderly Loved One’s Happiness at an Assisted Living Facility
by Amber Paley
Elder abuse is a subject we’re hearing more and more about as of late. From that news follows concern; not just for the vulnerable elderly population, but for our own loved ones. And when the time comes that we can no longer provide our loved ones with the care they need, assisted living facilities become something we all have to deal with. But how can we know we’re choosing the right facility for our loved one and that he or she will be happy there? Below you’ll find tips for ensuring that your loved one stays happy and healthy.
Thoroughly Research All Potential Facilities
Before ever stepping foot in a potential nursing home for your loved one, do your research. Read about others’ experiences at those facilities and find out if there have been problems at the facility in the past. Also, check with Consumer Reports, which put together a report for nursing homes that are high quality and those that are low quality. Note: This appears to be for U.S. only.
Get a Feel for Potential Facilities
After researching facilities, start visiting ones that fit your loved one’s needs. Ask employees and the nursing home administrators questions about patient care and safety procedures. Ask to see past governmental inspection reports on the nursing home. Ask what the staff to resident ratio is and whether or not staff members have to undergo a background check before being hired. Observe other residents and get a general feel for the facility you are visiting. Make sure that the facility is one that’s environment is positive for your loved one. Chances are that if something rubs you the wrong way or you just generally get a negative feeling about the home that you should trust your intuition.
Consistently Check on Your Loved One
After choosing a nursing home for you loved one, consistently check on him or her. Statistics show that those residents who have a strong family presence are less likely to be abused and neglected than those that don’t. Ask your loved one how they feel at the facility, if they like it, and if they are being treated properly. Look for signs of physical abuse on his or her body periodically. If you notice any mood changes or you notice that your loved one is less mentally available than before, then investigate further; either of these things could be a sign of abuse. Also make note of how other residents act or appear; for instance, do residents seem like they are bathed regularly and given adequate food and water? Do staff members seem to respond quickly to resident’s calls?
Overall, taking an active role in choosing your loved one’s facility and in their life after they’ve moved to the facility are imperative to ensure that he or she is happy and receiving adequate care.
Copyright 2012, Amber Paley
Amber Paley is a guest blogger and article writer bringing to us information on how to ensure your loved one’s happiness in a nursing home.
Amber spends much of her professional life writing about elderly abuse in nursing homes. Visit Amber’s site and read more.
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