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I was recently invited to do a guest post on Heal My PTSD, a prominent PTSD site. I think you will find Creating a Heart Centered Life – Our Post PTSD Identity helpful, whether you are a PTSD survivor or someone looking for tools to deal with the increasingly stressful world we live in.
Almost everyone I meet nowadays says “Something’s happening”. As our world appears to be speeding up, many of us are quite challenged to find a way to live that feels healthy & lowers our stress level. Here are a few tips to help you to slow down & smell the roses!
- Remind yourself that Less is More in terms of activity during this time of change (this applies to our work, personal life & leisure time)
- Spend as much time outside as possible, it’s rejuvenating & supports our transformation
- Drink more water than usual if possible, this supports our changing systems
- Meditate, pray, ask for guidance (whatever suits you & your philosophy) – it works!
- Do something for creative release each day, e.g. singing, art, yoga, dance, walking in nature
- Use grounding techniques to deal with your stress: e.g. walk on the grass barefoot, lie on the grass under a tree (these 2 are from Ayurvedic (Indian) Medicine; Stamp your feet; Imagine roots coming out of the soles of your feet, drop them down to the centre of the earth & anchor them there
- Eat moderate amounts of high quality food
- Balance your intake of alcohol, coffee, sweets, television & on-line activities (the latter may disrupt your nervous system)
- Laugh & have fun
If you feel you’re going through a transformation, you can check out this link: Indigo Children & Adults: Symptoms of Spiritual Awakening - (It’s not just for Indigos).
Check out my second blog Spiritual Journeying, you’ll find some excellent recent guest blogs on it.
Please give us your input, using the comments section. Thanks.
In spirit
Ellen
I think you’ll enjoy this guest post by Dana Williams, a powerful healer who lives in our community:
THE UNIVERSE IS NEUTRAL
We are so plugged into the idea of ‘Right & Wrong’.
If we are happy, then we must be doing it right… Right?
If we are unhappy, we must be doing it wrong… Right?
Unhappiness leads us to work harder to fix it, so that everybody is happy, and, by the way, we tend to leave ourselves out of the equation.
We compare past moments of happiness, try to recreate them, but it all falls flat. So we work harder to get the happiness back. When it doesn’t happen, we blame and shame ourselves for not being good enough.
When we feel like we let “them” down and we go into judgement and wrong ourselves for not working hard enough to get their love and approval, this is the key to recovering our missing piece. In this moment of realization, we are actually doing something right !
Stay with me here …
The Universe will always match us where we are unclear, in particular with the gap in our boundaries. It will match the lowest vibration in the gap of “no” boundaries and send in the messengers to dance with that energetic match.
Years and years of matching and dancing with the old patterns put us in a trance of thinking that we are “wrong” or else we would be happy.
Often, the reason we are not happy is because we are doing it for someone else’s approval and this is wrong.
So we are actually right when we discover this.
Kinda upside down at first, but when we get it, it will automatically change our life.
“Happy” is a very subjective state. We often unconsciously give our power to close relationships to decide for us if we are allowed to be happy or not.
Let’s call back the responsibility for our own creations from the start. Hanging out in judgement, blame and victimhood is a choice.
We can be so habitually trained to be busy and working hard and not being in our truth and putting others first in order to avoid looking these frightened monkeys in the eye.
Why would we want to give all of our power over to these dancing, jacked-up, scared little tricksters? Often it is to keep us safe from our own brilliance, because this brilliance is foreign to us.
Let’s look these patterns in the eye and allow them to be released so that our clear boundaries can be the theme to send out to the Universe.
When the Universe picks up the energies of clarity and co-creation with higher vibrational personal endeavors, it will match these ~ always!
The Universe has no agenda, other than to follow our inner self talk and communication. So, living small and in fear becomes a choice when we know the truth of the above wisdom.
Make the choice to update these old habitual patterns and send out a new call through your energy so that you can witness new awareness.
Call to yourself what you want,
instead of what you don’t want.
End the “Story” !
Known as The Artist of Change, Dana Williams is trained in Energy Healing, Certified as a Transpersonal Clinical Hypnotherapist, NLP Practitioner and Advanced EFT Practitioner. Her practice is based in Roberts Creek, on the beautiful Sunshine Coast of BC. She incorporates EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques) with other healing modalities to help her clients shift and transform their lives and uses humour and intuition to move the sessions along easily and gently, to release old stuck patterns, programs and limitations.
Dana’s 2-day workshop, HEAL YOUR MONKEY MIND on April 28th & 29th will help you to look behind THE MONKEY BUSINESS and release your phobias, fears and anxieties.
When someone who is dear to us passes away, our relationship with them doesn’t end, it transforms into a new form. We must come to terms with that; that’s the process of grieving. I believe that, as their body, mind and spirit changes into a different form, so does the relationship we have with them. We must surrender the connection that was in order to form a new bond.
We can’t predict how we will feel when the anniversary arrives. It’s just a day after all, we think, but it’s a special one. As the first anniversary of my mothers leaving drew closer over the past couple of weeks, I began to recapture some of the feelings and memories of that time. The first year is the most important, my friend Lee tells me, because we re-experience with our senses the sights, smells and sounds of that time, along with the feelings. It’s important to take some time to talk about the relationship we had with that person, the qualities we remember about them.
The loss of our mother, particularly of the mother-daughter bond, can be a primal experience. It’s about safety in the world. In my case, the feelings I’ve experienced anew have caused my physical body to go out of alignment; my low back tightened, my right neck and shoulder spasmed and hurt. My body was speaking to me loud and clear.
This morning, the actual anniversary of the day Mom passed on in the early morning, the atmosphere in my room felt exactly the same as it did one year ago. During meditation an awareness came to me; our revisiting, on this first anniversary, of the feelings and sensations that took place at the time of death is due, at least in part, to the presence of our loved one around us in a much closer way on this day. Their spirit is with us.
Not everyone would choose to think along these lines, but for those of you who do, I hope this comforts you.
Ellen
Ellen Besso, Martha Beck certified life coach and trained counsellor, is committed to helping midlife women enrich their lives. She is the mother of an adult daughter and was caregiver for her elderly mother and a close friend who recently passed away. Ellen’s personal goal is to live and work in a spiritual, heart centred way. She is the author of Surviving Eldercare & has numerous articles published on midlife and eldercare.
I received this announcement from the Canada Tibet Committee & wanted to share it with you. Last fall, the Montreal rock band, Sunrise and Good People released their music video I won’t fall down – a homage to Tibet, along with the CTC . Now they are doing a Canada-wide tour to raise money to sponsor the Tibetans who will be permitted to enter Canada over the next 5 years.
Please read this & if you feel moved to help in some way, subscribe to the newsletter, go to a concert, or help locally.
Here on the Sunshine Coast of British Columbia, we are working hard to form 2 sponsorship groups to bring Tibetan refugees to our community. If you are local & would like to help, please contact me through my website.
Benefit concert for the Tibetan Resettlement Project (Project Tibet Society), starring Sunrise and Good People
Last fall, the Montreal rock band Sunrise and Good People released the music video “I won’t fall down” (an homage to Tibet) with the help of the Canada Tibet Committee. This was the start of a great collaboration between the two. They decided to launch a nationwide fundraising tour called Rock for Tibet!
Sunrise and Good People will start off their tour in Vancouver, British Columbia on March 28th at the Biltmore Cabaret . On March 31st they will perform in Victoria at Felicita’s campus pub.
Proceeds from the concert tour will be donated to the Tibetan Resettlement Project, an initiative to resettle to Canada up to 1000 displaced, stateless Tibetans who currently reside in Arunachal Pradesh, a remote state in the far North East corner of India.
Vancouver Concert information:
Date: Wednesday, March 28th
Time: Doors open at 8:00 PM
Location: Biltmore Cabaret, 2755 Prince Edward, Vancouver
Tickets: $10 at door; $25 advance tickets come with the CD “Rise Up”, by Sunrise and Good People
Event Website – Scroll down to March 28 and click on the ticketweb link to buy advance tickets on-line)
For more information, including concert details for Victoria and other cities across Canada.
Dermod Travis, Executive Director – CTC and Xavier Auclair, Lead singer – SGP, introduce the tour and the fundraising initiative in this Georgia Straight article by Matt Burrows
More information on Project Tibet Society and the Tibetan Resettlement Project:
Citizenship and Immigration Canada’s News release announcing acceptance of 1000 displaced Tibetans living in the Indian state of Arunachal Pradesh, and public policy concerning the settlement of these Tibetans:
CTC information relating to sponsorship and settlement of the displaced Tibetans http://www.tibet.ca/en/projecttibetsociety
To sign up for the Vancouver/Lower Mainland area’s Project Tibet Society/Resettlement Project e-mail list, please send your request to: vancouvertibet@gmail.com
Copyright 2008 Comité Canada Tibet Committee
Please forward to friends who you believe are supportive of the Tibetan cause and people.
