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Archive for January, 2009

Wednesday, January 28, 2009

To all of you who have been so supportive of my writing & my e-book for women caring for aging parents, & to others who follow my blog, the book launch has been delayed due to illness on my team. We’ll keep you posted.

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Wednesday, January 28, 2009

Laos has only been open to tourists for about 20 years. It’s a remote country, and one of the poorest anywhere. Yet when you visit Luang Prabang, a 10 hour bus ride north of Vientiane, the capital, you might think you were in a tourist town anywhere in the world. Development has come quickly, more restaurants, craft and clothing stores open each year. It’s changing the culture rapidly, but it’s not a natural progression at all, but rather a distortion. I was always aware of my wealth and the poverty of the Laoatians as I passed their stores or they served me in a restaurant.

It was, however, a highlight of our Laos experience. Luang Probang is beautiful architecturally and there are many interesting things to do there. We walked a lot as we always do, took a 2 hour sunset cruise on a huge boat on the Mekong River with only 7 tourists on it (made friends with people from Malaysia & Norway), spent a day hiking to a magnificent waterfalls & biked around (well Don did, I walked).

Our hike took us through two indigenous villages – a Khamou one & a Hmong one, they live close together in harmony. I’ve never visited remote villages anywhere before & the basic standard of living there was like something one would see on a National Geographic show. The Khamous build their houses up a few feet on stilts, while the Hmong ones are right on the ground. They farm & do a few crafts such as dolls & lampshades that they sell in the village & in town, & make rattan.

We spent a little time in Vientiane before & after LP, it’s a busy, working city of a quarter million on the Mekong River; other than a proliferation of restaurants the tourist effect on the town seems somewhat insignificant.

Prior to that we spent a few days at an inexpensive eco-resort an hour north of Vientiane that we were lucky to find through a travel magazine. It was called Rivertime, & the name was very apt. Sitting on the floating restaurant down the hill from our cabin, on a tributary of the Mekong, or taking a boat trip on a barge balanced on two long boats, one could imagine staying there forever.

The Laos people are lovely, very mellow seeming, their energy & the atmosphere in the country is beautiful.

My next blog installment will be about Malaysia.

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Friday, January 16, 2009

What to say about Bangkok? I noticed on the plane out of Vancouver a quietness, a calm energy amongst the passengers, quite unlike the bustling energy on the way to India last year. We’ve been here since Tuesday around noon Bangkok time (that’s about 9 pm Vancouver time) & we’re leaving this eveing for Ventienne, Laos, an 11 hour bus ride north (plane tickets were expensive & the 1st class train was fully booked; they said Don was too tall for a 2nd class upper berth).

We’ve loved the neighborhood we’ve stayed in, called Phra Nakhon, at the Rajata, a quiet family hotel with friendly staff & interesting laneways to explore & eat in. Life revolves around the street, with kids playing near their parents & small businesses & living space often in the same set of rooms. We’re about a 15 minute walk from the Chao Phraya River, & on the east side of it where most of the city is. We can get a long ferry ride through 15 stops for 13 Bhat (~52 cents). Sometimes the ferry is pretty crowded with Thais going about their daily business along with many tourists, but it’s a great way to travel.

A few stops down the river from us is the enormous & very beautiful Wat (temple) Phra Kaeo & Grand Palace where the beloved King & Queen used to live (they’re in their 80’s now & reside elsewhere) & many  markets. Yesterday we took the boat further along to the Central Pier, & had one of those weird tourist experiences.

We ran into a lovely Thai woman who is an English teacher. She recommended that we take a tuk tuk (auto rickshaw) to the Thai market to see local Thai products. It took ages to get their in very busy traffic & when we arrived we saw not the marketplace we expected, but a very upscale wholesale showroom with one floor of high end jewellery displays & the other dress clothes. I did see one thing I liked, a small, rather heavy turtle with semi-precious stones on it, but wasn’t willing to pay the discount price of 1400 Bhat (~$56).  

Our ride to the craft place was very cheap, but when we tried to get out of there, it took many tries to find the right driver to take us. The 1st tuk tuk driver said he’d charge less than what we paid to get there but insisted that we make “1 stop” on the way back at a store so he’d get a commission, so we got out of his tuk tuk (suprisingly he let us). Then we crossed the street where we saw a lineup of cabs, but it was the taxi yard; some of the cabs were out of commission being repaired, & several very friendly drivers said they could drive us after they ate lunch, in about 1 hour (one invited us to sit down & share the meal, but we politely declined as we wanted to get back downtown. The men helped us a bit & finally we found a tuk tuks driver willing to take us back to the Central Pier area downtown for 70 Bhat (because the traffic was getting so heavy). When we finally got back there I took off my pristine white hat & it had quite a bit of black soot on it.

All for now – next installment from Laos hopefully.

 

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Friday, January 9, 2009

I did it! My e-book, The Caregiver in MidLife, where do their needs end & yours begin? is available through my website. It’s been a labor of love & is my offering to other midlife women caring for elderly parents. It interweaves my personal story of caregiving for my Mom with helpful information & exercises.

Well, I’m off to Southeast Asia with my partner on Sunday for a few weeks. First the train from Bangkok to Laos. I’m told Laos is a very romantic country. I read in the travel book that the people like to laugh a lot & think there’s something wrong with those who work too hard. Then Malaysia, to Kuala Lumpur & up to the highlands where the tea is grown, then on to Krabi province in South Thailand, where my brother spends each winter. It’s our first visit to him; we’ve heard it’s a pretty idylic place,  the food’s so good & the menu so extensive you can’t get through it during your time there.

We’re trying to reduce our air travel this year, & have purchased gold standard carbon offsets to help offset the damage to the environment. See the David Suzuki website for information on carbon offsets; we chose Ben & Jerry’s to purchase our carbon offsets. Unfortunately we can’t take the ferry from North Malaysia to South Thailand as we planned, because the Thai visa rules have changed. We need 21 days & can only get 15 days coming in by boat!

Keep your eye on my blog for my musings about Southeast Asia.

Happy New Year

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